Summer’s almost here, and you’ve decided it’s time for your child to learn to swim. If you’ve got a natural fish on your hands, sit back and enjoy the fun. But if your child is more conservative and fearful about trying new things, be prepared to get creative.
Some children don’t easily tolerate having an unfamiliar person using a hands-on approach to show them how to swim. Let go of the idea that the “correct” way to learn is to pay attention while being formally taught. That’s not how babies learn to walk! Kids have a natural tendency to grow and learn, and they do it more through watching and playing, than by being instructed. Gifted teachers create an environment that attracts kids to learning rather than coercing them.
Part of the art of teaching – and of parenting – is to be able to present children with opportunities that provide a level of challenge that attracts them because is just beyond their current capability. If it’s too easy, it’s boring; if it’s too difficult, your child will be afraid to try.
Dropping a fearful child off to a stranger to learn to swim is too great a challenge for some kids. So create an attractive alternative to get the job done. Play with your child in the water. Have fun. Instead of instructing her in blowing bubbles, encircle her in a hug and act out a story about a silly parrot who thought it was hilarious to blow mouthfuls of air into the water. Be silly, be funny, laugh.
Don’t suddenly let go of a frightened child in the middle of the pool to prove to her that she can swim. Propel her through the water with your hand under her back – and later, her stomach. Make a game of how fast she is! Have her kick to be even faster. When she’s ready, make a magic ring around her with your arms that starts small and gets larger once she knows she is safe.
Not a swimmer? Children are rightfully suspicious when their parents proclaim how fun and safe an activity is – but won’t do it themselves. If you’re afraid of the activity you’re promoting, a cautious child is liable to take that to heart. Find a helper whose enthusiasm entices your child to join in.
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Fran Hendrick, M.Ed., P.C.C., is director of Parenting Resources at Beech Acres Parenting Center.